Amazing... I'm starting to see it....
In NLP there's a term called Frame... which could be compared to wearing a pair of glasses. When we're feeling sad/depressed... we're looking through a dark set of glasses. To feel better we need to be able to acknowledge our feelings and be able to compartmentalize our thoughts. By doing so, we can then take off those glasses and put on a new pair (reframing)... From there, we can see clearly what our new objective might be.
On that SAME token, I've also realized how our reality is TRULY what we make of it. If we choose to follow a certain path then everything will simply work with us... If we go down a new street and undertake a new adventure, then what we want and look for will come with us. We're not forced to follow a certain path as we think we are. Note that I'm having a hard time putting this into words as it's completely new for me.
There's some KEY KEY items I realized recently that make this growth possible.
1) Smile
2) Entertaining (have jokes and good stuff to talk about)
3) Confident (even if only on the outside) Compartmentalize your lack of confidence and become an actor acting the confident part if need be
4) Read people efficiently. This involves body language, eye patterns, words.
5) Create rapport/trust by talking to them about what they like and relate it to your life
Above all this.. IMAGE is EVERYTHING. I hate to say it... but it's true... By image, I mean the whole package (depending on the environment you're in....) A smile and happy approach to someone new will create an instant conversation and on that same token will prevent you from easily closing up, becoming shy and not knowing what to say.
It really does involve a direct caveman approach to life.. You truly have to go after what you want. If someone wants to stop you or raise a flag... let them... in the meantime... you go after what you want!
