Relationships...

I'm sitting here thinking about relationships and jealousy... both really do not go hand in hand...

However how does one live with such constrictions? What I'm trying to say is for example your girlfriend has a guy friend. How do you not become jealous over wanting such a bond. Over time (in my mind) their bond could potentially grow to something bigger leading to a more dangerous emotional aspect. Emotions are a dangerous thing once unleashed. Typically (from what I've seen) uncontrollable until you reach the end of the emotional wave.

How do people stay in relationships for so long unless they've found that one person and need not share themselves with someone else in terms of emotions or....?

Anywho...

NLP Agent of Change.

Excerpt from: NLP - Whispering in the Wind by John Grinder and Carmen Bostic St Clair.
Page: 37

client: I can't express my feelings in front of my spouse
NLP agent of change: What would happen if you did?

Using Bateson's definition of pattern, we have a client and an NLP trained agent of change in a loop. We could place the slash mark immediately after the initial statement by the client containing the modal operator of possibility (can't) as the challenge that the agent of change will offer is fully predicable given the syntax of the client's statement. Equally valid would be the placement of the slash mark after the challenge by the agent of change. What occurs on the other side of this slash mark - the next set of responses by the client - is (at least partially) redundant or predictable? Change is underway.
In the first case where the slash mark occurs immediately after the clients statement - the specific set of challenges available to the agent of change is determined by the algorithms presented in, for example, the meta model - that is, we are able to predict with better than chance probability what the verbal responses of the agent of change will be. If we position the slash mark after the challenge by the agent of change, we could say with confidence that what occurs subsequent to that challenge is an exploration of consequences that extend and enrich the mental map of the client leading then to increased choice in his or her experience.

WHAT? In simpler terms:

Normally we see only one path to our answer or we only see one sentence in our head. That being (to use the example above) "I can't express my feelings in front of my spouse" Typically you might have had a situation in the past where you had expressed yourself and received a bad reaction that's causing you to shut down now.

The agent of change lets you challenge your subconscious by asking it specifically why it cannot express itself. By doing so, you're opening up a world of choices to the client. Once this happens, the client might see a plethora of new options to choose from.

Amsterdam

So I have someone contacting me for a job offer in Amsterdam... I'm soo tempted...

It's for a position as Senior developer. I'm positive I can do it, it's just to figure out if I want to make that jump...

Time to sit and think!

EZ PEEZEE

thoughts become actions as soon there's light
spare me the parts and please spare me the fight
workin on the images and mental creation
words flow up out me in pages and in pages.

wavering in the light, and darkness they collide
hoping there's at least 1 emotion i can ride
forget the body anger, and stories from the past
releasing temper tantrums over music you can blast

rehashing through my thoughts, trying to find the pain
tricky mind games have got me thinkin bout the 'same
trust becomes a word, sticking to the game
I'm lustin after ways, to keep my mind all sane.

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